Don't you think it's about time you stopped talking smack about yourself?
I used to be the queen of making negative comments about myself. Kind of a weird thing given I’d been coaching other people to stop doing that for years.
But you don’t always realize what you are saying to yourself until someone else you are living with hears you and addresses it.
There I was standing in front of my full-length mirror after getting dressed, smoothing out my hips attempting to straighten the curves I’d been born with and had never been proud of.
My then husband caught me doing this one day and asked me what I was doing. “I just wish my thighs were smaller and my hips weren’t so big,” I whined.
“First, women are supposed to be curvy,” he said. "Second, stop talking smack about my best friend Jen.”
His reply stopped me dead in my tracks. No one had ever said that, in that way to me before.
He had a point. We'd never talk to a friend the way we talk to ourselves. If we did, we wouldn't have many left.
Whether it is complaining about the way we look, calling ourselves stupid or silly, or comparing ourselves to someone else and coming up short – we are all guilty of this behavior. We all know negative self-talk is not “good,” so why do we keep doing it?
I think it is for the same reason it is so difficult to keep a promise to ourselves. No one is watching. No one is listening. No one is witnessing our behavior.
But I want to assure you that someone is.
You are watching, you are listening, you are witnessing your own behavior.
Every time you criticize yourself you are chipping away at your own magic.
So how can you let go of this disempowering habit?
During this 60-minute webinar, you will:
- Identify and "own" your inner critic;
- Develop ways to catch it early, and
- Create a power statement that truly leaves you feeling powerful!
Sign Up for the "Reclaim Your Sanity" Series: How to Kill Your Inner Hyena
Sign Up for the "Reclaim Your Sanity" Series: How to Kill Your Inner Hyena
What is the "Reclaim Your Sanity" Series Series About Anyway?
In these 60-minute pre-recorded master classes, you will tackle professional and personal struggles (the ones you can’t or don’t want to chat about with your partner or best friend). You’ll go from feeling slightly insane to having a handle on solutions.
Watch me coach people as we navigate life's ridiculous montage, and tackle a variety of topics both professional and personal. From blunders in the workplace to personal loss, from dealing with your teenagers to caring for your aging parents, these and other irritations can either drive us to insanity or inspire us to overcome and thrive.
Each pre-recorded masterclass features a proven tool you can add to your "bag of tricks" and use as needed as you move through the challenges of life.
Series Structure
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Learn how to stop criticizing yourself in 60 minutes!
Learn how to stop criticizing yourself in 60 minutes!
About the instructor
Executive Coach Speaker/Training Best-Selling Author
Jen Coken
This is the part where I share my life story, right?If it’s okay with you I’d like to go about this another way. Rather than give you a TEDx-worthy rendition of how I found my way to coaching CEOs and entrepreneurs for the past 20 years, I want to share a few of the things that make me tick. The kind of nuggets you’d learn if we shared a coconut milk latte. Here goes:To me, work and play are one.When you’re juggling a tangle of responsibilities or wading your way through full-stop crises, life can seem so serious. Embracing the ridiculousness of life is what keeps me afloat. Humor and playfulness are what make me feel less alone and help me “get it all done.”Questions are my best friends.And listening? We gab over chips and guac every Tuesday night. My point is, I love discovery and looking at circumstances with new eyes. And: I whole-heartedly enjoy pushing boundaries and throwing bias to the side.It’s how we get into uncharted territory (and how I survived 30 years as a grassroots organizer in politics). They call me the “Velvet Sledgehammer”I tend to cut through the crap and I’ve got a serious thing for authenticity. My vision is a world where you are free to be yourself, grounded in who you are, and achieving your soul's purpose...but arriving there begins with getting real about why things are they way they are (in a judgement-free space, of course).I don’t work with my clients forever—here’s why:You already have the power you achieve your goals. My job is to listen. To help you arrive at your own answers. To help you craft an actionable plan for tapping into that power. Once you take your finger out of that damn there’s no going back. Let me be abundantly clear: My work is about solutions and forward momentum.And I raise the bar on people (even if they set high to begin with).I live for helping people achieve breakthroughs. We’re here to fulfill a destiny after all! Achieving your goals is one thing. Shirking old have-to’s and should’s is another. But going beyond what you think you’re capable of? That’s what my process revolves around. Seeing people do their heart’s work is why I do this work.Want to chat more? You can schedule a free 30 minute discovery call with me today. Or find me on Twitter @jcoken, Facebook @jencoken and on Instagram @jencoken. And, if you’re in Rockville Maryland, you can just try yelling my name really loud ;)